Physicians’ credentials should include bedside manners

Physicians’ credentials should include bedside manners

Living Life with CP

Right now I’m hurt, scared and anxious. I’m so embarrassed to be discussing this, but I feel it’s something I must do. You see, for the past month, I’ve been struggling with nightly bed-wetting.

I went to my primary care doctor and he thought I had an infection. He wrote me a script for an antibiotic. I was hopeful. But my symptoms cleared up for only a few days before returning and accompanied by  pelvic pain and lower stomach pain. I want back to the doctor, but he wasn’t able to help me. He said the problem was likely due to my cerebral palsy and recommended a urogynecologist. My primary care doctor said that this specialist likely would have to do a “scope.” I was terrified.

I already have a great OB-GYN. He diagnosed me with vulvodynia, which is unexplained vaginal pain. In my opinion, the pain is severe. I say “in my opinion” because I have found that when I tell people about it — doctors, nurses, friends — they seem to listen, but often don’t believe me, or they don’t believe the pain is as bad as I describe.

I tried to push this fear to the back of my mind and make sure I was as relaxed as possible going into the appointment with the specialist, because I knew it might be painful. I took comfort in the fact that I was aware of my pain and what my problems were. I thought this doctor would understand and be helpful.

I felt good about the appointment. It finally would provide answers after a month-long battle with my body. The woman at the front desk was super friendly and the office was cozy. The nurse was amazing. But then when I met the doctor. It went so, so wrong. I had a month-long list of symptoms I wanted to tell him about. I wanted to tell him about my vulvodynia, about the stomach pain and pelvic pain I’ve been having.  But he did not listen. All the doctor did was ask me the questions on his checklist. He didn’t give me a chance to talk about anything. The exam was awful; the pain he caused me was unbearable.

As I write this I am shaking with tears in my eyes. I feel so defeated and so sad. I feel like I was not listened to or heard.

I felt he did not believe my experience, didn’t care or want to help me. I’ve seen the inside of many doctors’ offices. I’ve met many doctors and nurses over the course of my life. I am lucky to say that I’ve only met a handful of doctors like the one I met that day.

If you are a doctor, I encourage you to really think about your patients and what they could be experiencing. Please listen and please believe them. If you’re a patient, do not give up.

It seems the next stop for me, if this doesn’t improve on its own, is the ER. It is the last resort that I’ve been putting off, but it seems to be the best option. I will keep you all updated.

I’m really sorry if this was a downbeat column. I am just so sad right now.

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Hello, My name is Brittney and I am a columnist with Cerebral Palsy. I focus on writing about lifestyle and believe that everyone’s experience is relevant, no matter the disability. I support, and advocate for, the mainstreaming and normalization of children with disabilities and their families, as well as advocating for parents and children who need to go the more specialized route. I hope that my content provides a positive reinforcement that it is possible to live a happy and fulfilled life even with a disability.

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